Things have been wild. News coverage, Twitter overload, trying to stay in touch with endangered loved ones. Early Intervention, play-based assessments, diagnosis, sensory issues, baby sign language. Family dinners, less TV, deflecting unwanted advice, keeping up with chores, dealing with an ant problem. Baby and toddler digestive issues (read: LOTS OF PUKE AND POO). I tweeted on Thursday: “This week has been really heavy. Which made me realize that last week was, too. Which made me realize that this is life. I’m tired.” But I’m also done with excuses. Because THIS IS LIFE. There will be a weekly tragedy, annoying e-mail, childhood illness, sisterly hangout…or maybe all of them at once.
So, in the name of getting our shit together, here are some good things, happy things, positive things, back-to-business things.
-I just loaded my reader (ugh, still stuck on Google, not loving The Old Reader yet) with new blogs about Weight Watchers and weight loss. If reading about fancy mamas who take lots of instagram pictures makes me want to be a fancy mama who takes a lot of instagram pictures, I’m hoping the same logic will extend to reading about these ladies and their work outs and meal plans. I have some kids to chase, blah blah blah. This just needs to happen.
-I’m also working on a family photo book for Milo, and it’s looking really cute. I’ve hunted down and gathered pictures of our family members and edited them with the names in bold font. One of Milo’s favorite pastimes is walking around our house, pointing at faces in pictures and asking us to name them, so I want to give him this for the cuteness factor, and to help with his new shy stage (Here is the hierarchy- 1. Ben, 2. Me, 3. Whoever is holding Elliott. Otherwise- nervous.)
-Ben and I filled an entire dumpster with garage trash, got some quotes on a landscaping overhaul, and have been taking the boys out for lots of walks on our street. All of these things=being friendly and more involved neighbors. Our curb appeal is still more like curb appalling (ha HA!), but we’re getting closer to being adult homeowners. And we finally took our Christmas wreath down.
-This is my current parenting mantra: “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It’s the only thing.” -Albert Schwertger. Want kids that read? Read to them…READ IN FRONT OF THEM. Want kids that eat vegetables? Put vegetables on the table…AND EAT THEM WITH GUSTO. Want kids that are kind to people and animals? DO THAT. DO IT ALWAYS. ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU THINK THEY AREN’T LOOKING. My kids are still teensy, but I already know that this is going to be very important, even more so if they have personalities anything like mine.
-It’s all going to happen. You can stress and freak out and make lists and demand things of yourself. You can berate and dismiss yourself, make 1000 excuses, come up with a new system every Sunday night. Or you can let it be. And trust that it will happen. I’m noticing chores get crossed off the list, phone calls returned, little corners getting cleaned up, all in the natural course of life. If I’m living it right, everything else falls into place. Honestly, I can only remember this fact when I’m sitting still during 15 minutes of weekly clarity…but it’s true. Trust that it will happen.
(The pictures with this post are from the last few weeks, just some sweet little gems that never made it to the internet light of day. Whenever I’ve sad, these subjects ground me right back to where I need to be.)